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Wednesday, January 30, 2013

Child Issues

Now, when I met and married my husband almost 2 years ago, I knew that there was a possibility of a child being involved. And even though I'm not what some would call a "kid friendly person" I jumped in head first.

There for a while we were getting his child (we shall call her sally) on a pretty regular basis.
(Mind you, at this stage there was no child support set in place, no DNA testing done etc etc....we were getting her and supporting her without all of that) Thing were going good. Or so we thought.

When we had Sally we asked for nothing from her mother. We spent the hour in the car to go get her and the hour in the car bringing her back. There was no "I'll meet you in the middle." When we had her she was our financial responsibility. And she lacked for nothing. Her needs were met with us.

Then one day, things took a turn. We didn't have the time to take her back. So I called the mother, we were on good terms and pretty much still are, and asked her if she could please come pick up Sally because we didn't have the time or the gas to fulfill it. I had to be at work and my husband can't legally drive. Well needless to say we were told that it is "our responsibility" to get her back. So I politely informed her that Sally would be staying with us until she decided to come get her child. I'm not one to play any time of game in that area. We had her an extra week needless to say. She's a doll and I didn't mind at all. But there was NO contact from the mother what-so-ever in regards to her child. Not once did she pick up that phone and see if she was alive, dead, happy or even sad or taken care of!

Well before we knew it, she started asking for money from us to "support" his child. (mind you, a child that he has NO DNA proof that is his. And she's had another man tested as well) Normally I wouldn't object to this. BUT, when this mother is wearing "name brand" clothing (that I know didn't come from any second hand store) and is driving around a BRAND NEW car (that I know is hers) why is she asking US for money. My husband and I barely make ends meet. But yet this mother is living in a house that she bought with her girlfriend that costs upwards of at least $200k. So who needs money? Now don't get that twisted. I'm all for a man supporting his child, be it financially or emotionally, or any other way the child needs. But when we are taking this child in to our home without proof of DNA (knowing there were other men tested) and treating her like she is our own and doing it without the help of anything of the mother.....where does she get off asking for help in return?  So my husband asked her for a DNA test. Which I think is the responsible thing to do. Especially since he's not really THAT responsible of an adult to begin with! LOL I love him, but all men are over grown children. Well that pissed her off and needless to say it was about a year before we heard any more of Sally or even seen her.

Until recently! (now don't get me wrong, we both tried contacting the mother in regards to Sally and seeing how she was doing and thriving etc etc... we never tried to stay out of contact with her. But never got a response in return) Well now we are going through Child Support Services as regards to DNA testing. So we shall see if she is really his child. Though we have been waiting since August for the results! Personally my husband things she is his child, but just wants the absolute positive results in front of him before he hands over a dime. Is that wrong? I don't think so.

Sabrae Culver

Monday, January 28, 2013

I'm going crazy and eating chocolate!

No joke. Really there are NOT enough hours in the day to do everything I want and or need to do. Therefore I'm going crazy. And right now I'm eating chocolate covered marshmallows with cinnamon that my momma made me! (and oh is it gooooooooood, esp at 11pm)

Recently I took on the ever important role of taking care of 2 households. Really what it is, my dad needs help around their house and well naturally I need to take care of my own. So I'm being paid to help at the parents house and look after my momma. Which I don't mind doing at all! It gives me a great escape for sure! And I get to hang out with my awesome momma! Truly, you have to meet this woman some day! She's a hoot! She's also disabled, so she can't get up and about that well. Therefore, I get to do the cleaning. And the bookkeeping....and the organizing and the laudry....well you get the pictrue!

But man, the hours are starting to get a little hectic. Between running errands all morning, cleaning parents house all afternoon, and then coming home and cleaning my house (my husband tends to be a nasty pig sometimes, and yes I tell him that) there is just never enough time to do the things I want to do.

For example: I would love the opportunity to blog more. And not just on this blog, but my 50 other blgos as well.
I would love to write more articles for HubPages
Sleep (that would be a plus!)

Well I think you get jist of what I mean.
So since it is 11:15pm here in the mountains of North Georgia I'll bid you all adieu and catch some sleep now, since 6am comes awfully fast!

Sabrae Culver 

Tuesday, January 8, 2013

Becoming a domestic goddess....

Well honestly I wouldn't call myself a "goddess" or even "domesticated". But lately it feels that way. There are 4 adults and two children (ages 4 &2) living in this tiny apartment. So mostly it stays dirty. Not for lack of cleaning tho.

Everyday I get up and clean, do about 10 loads of laundry, dishes, cook, clean again etc.....

Not to mention those kids aren't mine! LOL

Also I take care of a rat, mouse, iguana, bearded dragon, guiene pig and 2 small dogs.

Needless to say I'm constantly on the move. From the time my hubby wakes me up to the time I finally go to sleep. Which is usually pretty late.

How I'm still kickin I honestly do not know! LOL

So I'm wondering if there is a way to space out my day to day activities and actually have some down time to myself that doesn't involve staying up til wee hours in the morning. (because that is the only time it's quiet around here)

What do you "domestic goddesses" do?

Lots of love,
Sabrae Culver

Homemade laundry soap! I did it!

I'm actually quite proud of myself. I set out to do something I've never done before and I did it! I made homemade laundry soap today. It was fairly simple to! I've been big into Pinterest here lately and I found this Homemade "Laundry Sauce" and couldn't resist giving it a try.

I put it off for a few weeks actually. Always using the excuse I didn't have the "money" to buy the ingredients etc etc.... Well this past weekend at work I actually did quite well and said what the heck...

So I made the trip to our local WalMart and purchased the ingredients. Lo-n-behold.....
It wasn't THAT expensive! 
Actually it was any thing BUT! Needing only 3 ingredients :

Fels Naptha:0.97 cents
20 Mule Borax : $3 and some change
Arm & Hammer Washing Soda (NOT BAKING SODA) : $3 and some change as well

So you could imagine my surprise! Well I bought the ingredients and they've just been sitting in my kitchen since Saturday night... I kept saying to myself... "Ok, today you are going to make this....." I put it off until today. And to my surprise it was pretty easy to do. I followed the recipe to the "T" (as it's said) and was really worried I was going to muck it all up. But after the 4 hour of sit time, I whipped it up and was amazed that it seemed right.

I've got a load in the washer now! So let's cross our fingers and hope for the best! I'm thinking I did a pretty ok job with this one!

Now it's time to conquer some other projects!
Lot's of love
Sabrae Culver

If you would like to try the homemade laundry soap for yourself just click here