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Monday, January 26, 2009

It's been better

Well everyone, I think my schedule is FINALLY back to a bit of normalcy. The wife is back to work as of last Wednesday. And I am caught up on everything EXCEPT my blog reading and commenting. So hopefully after I clean up the house, do the dishes, vaccum, and dust, and take care of the dog, I will be able to sit down and finally get to them! LOL!

Max, our new dog, is working out perfectly. He is such a BIG baby! He loves to be around us at all times and even at times I will wake up and he will be sleeping between the wife and I. It's cute! It's nice to have a dog that I didn't have to train! LOL! I don't think I'd have the patience to have dealt with another training like we had with Clyde! Man I miss that doggy tho! :)

The wife and I kinda got into a little bit of an argument over one of her ex-girlfriends. UH-OH. LOL! She thinks that I was a bit over protective and un-trusting of her becuz I blocked the girl on her MySpace page and told her that she couldn't be 'buddies' with her. Oh well. Personally this girl tried non-stop to get her back when we first met. So am I in the wrong for protecting my family? I didn't think so. But man I got the guilt trip of a life time about how I didn't trust her and all the above. Well... ummmm nope it's not that I don't trust her. But they were together for a long time and my wife is the one who did the dumping. So I don't think it's appropriate for them to be friends. Am I in the wrong? What would you do?

Signing off,
Sabrae Carter


Anonymous said...

I'd feel the exact same way you did, especially since the girl was trying to get her back before. Even if your wife can be trusted, the other girl maybe can't be.

Janie said...

Y'all are married, right?

That's one up on the ex for you! Just talk it out and see each other's sides. It's all good.

Bella@That damn expat said...

Welcome back Sabrae!
I'm all for trust but if you two just don't want her in your lives then good riddance, I say.

LL Cool Joe said...

Hmm difficult one. My gut instinct would be to react the way you did....but, and there's always a but, if your wife ended the relationship with her before, I think you have to trust her. It takes two to tango and even if the girl is trying to win her back you should trust your wife when she says she's not interested.

There will always be people that come along in life that could be potential threats to your relationship, but if you two are sound together you will be ok.

By blocking her friendship with this girl it could just lead to resentment and lies.

Evil Twin's Wife said...

I am so not the jealous type. I feel like until I would have a reason to not trust the Evil Twin, I should trust him. And, he extends the same courtesy to me... I am still friends with lots my exes. He barely keeps in touch with even his guy friends, but I wouldn't care if one of his exes called or whatever (he doesn't have any of the social networking things).

Ivanhoe said...

I'd probably do the same thing. My hubby was a friend with his ex for a while. We even went to her wedding with a new guy and than invited them to our wedding. We don't see them anymore thou, just have two different lives to live.
Your wife's ex will drop from the radar, too :o)

Sparkling Red said...

Yaaaaay! I'm so glad to hear that you made it through your tough times. :-) And that your new dog is fitting right in. Fantastic!

That problem is a tough call. Trust is important, but you also don't want your wife to be in the way of temptation. In my own life I've always erred on the side of trust. Like that saying: if you love something, set it free, and if it comes back to you, then it is truly yours.

heatherdotcom said...

Thanks for stopping by my blog! Max sounds cute - I want to see pics!

HealthyHomeJunkii said...

Just stopping by!

Here's what I think:

Exes should be left out of your life. It's un-needed DRAMA! ;)Thankfully hubby wants nothing to do with his exes. Plus he doesn't like myspace. LOL I can understand where you are coming from. I'd want to protect my family too. When hubby and I got married, we moved to a different state. When we married, our exes were OUT of our life.

But I can see where SHE is coming from. I think she may be upset that you took it upon yourself to do that. Perhaps if you had asked her or let her know what you were doing, she wouldn't feel left out of the loop.