He's not perfect. You aren't either, and the two of you will never be perfect. But if he can make you laugh at least one, causes you to think twice, and if he admits to being human and making mistakes, hold onto him and give him the most you can. He isn't going to quote poetry, he's not thinking about you every moment, but he will give you a part of him that he knows you could break. Don't hurt him, don't change him, and don't expect more than he can give. Don't analyze. Smile when he makes you happy, yell when he makes you mad, and miss him when he's not there. Love hard when there is love to be had. Because perfect guys don't exist, but there's always one guy that is perfect for you.
~Bob Marley
Sunday, December 18, 2011
Friday, December 16, 2011
Wednesday, December 14, 2011
Monday, December 12, 2011
Highly charged emotions.
Under certain circumstances, you may need to take steps to counteract someone else's wrong-doing, but it's always to do so without anger in your heart.
This will make your response more effective, because when you mind is overwhelmed by a disturbing and highly charged emotion like anger, the action you take will not be appropriate, or a reflection of your true self.
Thursday, December 8, 2011
Sunday, December 4, 2011
Tuesday, November 15, 2011
Change isn't easy!
Change in life isn't always easy. I've made changes in my life. We all have. But relocation to a different state is scary. For 25 years Ohio was all I ever knew. My friends and family were there. It's where I grew up, went to high school, had a child, joined the military, and went to college. My first marriage, my life was Ohio. But things happened. And Ohio became a place I "use" to live. The first major state move was when I came to Georgia, hard to believe that was almost 3 years ago! The only people I knew were my mom and pop and sisters. The first few months I was here I didn't venture out. I knew no one. I was scared. But, against all odds, I made the leap and got a job at Waffle House. I began making aquantiences and forming friendships. I met my second husband here and started a life. I was comfortable. Life was great. I didn't want for anything. My life was truly my own for the first time in a while. But again life decided it was time for another change. And fate also intervened on my behalf. Things were not going smoothly in my second marriage. I was on the verge of leaving and starting over on my own when I met Jesse. Jesse is now my husband. ( and if you've been keeping track he's #3) I've since divorced my second husband and married Jesse. He truly is my one and only soulmate. I've lived him from the moment I looked into his eyes. And that brings me to my next major change in life. (and for the record, no I am not pregnant!) I'm making another move across state lines! In about 2 weeks we will be moving to Alabama. And yet again I will be starting over. Going to a town where he knows everyone and I know no one. And I haven't mentioned it to him, but I'm terrified. I'm 28 and I don't want to start over again. I will do it for him. I will do it because I know moving back close to his family is something he truly wants to do. But it's going to be hard!
Thursday, October 27, 2011
It's been a year
Wow. Today I realized that it's been a full year since I've updated my blog. And in that year so much has happened. No longer do I work for Waffle House. No longer am I married. Well I'm married, but not to the same person. (and yes I know how bad that sounds) I'm in the process of starting my own company called Creative Outlet.
Yup tons of things have changed. Not always sure if it's for the better tho.
Yup tons of things have changed. Not always sure if it's for the better tho.
Friday, November 12, 2010
So tired
Life around here hasn't been much fun that is for sure. Endless nights filled with work and days filled with catching up on sleep. That is the story of my life. I get a few hours in the morning online and that's about all. The MIL situation is still there. I haven't forgiven and she hasn't apologized, but is expecting us to still be there to drive her everywhere she needs to go and get her things. And I'm at my wits end with it all. My husband had told me that he would understand if I didn't do anything for her, but is throwing it in my face when I won't. So to keep the peace between he and I, I just bite my tounge. She stated that she is moving on the 20th of this month and hasn't disclosed the location, but that is all fine and dandy with me. I don't care where she moves as long as it is far far away! LOL Is that awful or what? I just hope she doesn't expect any help from me with moving, because that is one thing I will put my foot down on!
Well I'm off to soak in my tub and hit the sheets. Gotta do that whole work thing again tonight! Yay! LOL
Later Taters,
Sabrae
Well I'm off to soak in my tub and hit the sheets. Gotta do that whole work thing again tonight! Yay! LOL
Later Taters,
Sabrae
Friday, November 5, 2010
To forgive or not to forgive
Recently I had the undo pleasure of moving my mother-in-law to Ellijay Ga (where my husband and I reside) And to start off with, NO she did not move in with us. Just to make that one very clear from the beginning! LOL
Well we moved her from Columbus, Ga, which is 3 hrs south of Ellijay. No big deal. She gave us a week to find her a place to live, so we did. Keep in mind, she had no money for a deposit and no plans and has 3 tiny yappy dogs and most places around here don't accept pets. So we found her a place that is run by our current "landlord". From the moment we have moved her up here she has been nothing but a pain in my ass. Nothing makes her happy, she is constantly whining about something. She doesn't like the house that we moved her to. Granted it's not the best of places to live, but it's by far unlivable. And what else does she expect on such a short notice anyway? She's been in Ellijay for 3 weeks now. She has done nothing but whine about her home and yet hasn't even begun to look for another place. We have given her newspapers, shown her online how to look up places around us etc....But she would rather my husband do it for her. And sorry NO....he and I have our own lives and she is a grown ass woman! Well her landlord had offered for her to look at another place that he was currently evicting some tennants from. All he needed to do was get the paper work legalizing the removal of their belongings and he would have moved them out ASAP (this was Monday) so he called my husband and told him that. Which on Monday when we picked her up to take her to our home to do laundry he relayed this message to her. At that point she began her 2 year old temper tantrum. Crying and whining etc.... I, like usual, bit my tounge and didn't say two words to her. Which isn't unusual since I really didn't care for the woman to start with. She asked for me to take her to the post office to get her package and then to take her home. I wasn't one to plead and beg for her to come to our house to do her laundry. I respected her wishes and took her home. But on the way back to her house she asked me to stop at a gas station, where she promptly bought some beer (a 30 pack) Tate stated to her that "he was sorry he moved her up here because she was so unhappy" (Mind you that is ALL he said to her) and we dropped her off. By the time we got home she had bashed us all over Facebook telling anyone who would listen that we said we wished we had never moved her up here, and that she was to much trouble for us and all sorts of other nonsense. Then she proceed to message my mother on facebook and call her all sorts of names (the attack wasn't warranted and I had read the posts, my mom never said a thing to her!) Then proceeded to call our cell for the next 10 hours straight stating things like I was a whore and that my husband was an asshole and that we were the whitest of white trash....these voicemails are all saved on our phone as well. She proceeded to insult and threaten her neighbors and bug the landlord and other things. Which has gotten the police called on her, and the landlord letting her know that he wants her out on her ass and that he is giving her the rent money back ASAP. Which I don't blame him one bit after the trouble that she caused him all day and us for that matter. But now that it's 3 days later she is calling our phone and "apologizing and crying" and wanting my husband to call her. But I'm at my end with this woman. I've had enough of her childish behavior and I'm not going to stand for it. I know and knew that Tate will forgive her, he's her son and the only real reliable family she has. I don't hold it against him when he wants to make amends with her. But I'm not really the forgiving type, so it's going to be a while before I forgive and forget. If I ever do. With me you only get one shot, and she used that up! So I guess the question is.....do I forgive and forget because she is my husbands mother? I mean yea he can forgive her all he wants. But I'm the only one that can drive, so he can't go see or help her unless I'm the one to take him out there. And I'll be damned if it's going to be anytime soon. What do you think?
Later Taters
Sabrae
p.s. this post really doesn't FULLY express how I feel or how much really happened that day...
Well we moved her from Columbus, Ga, which is 3 hrs south of Ellijay. No big deal. She gave us a week to find her a place to live, so we did. Keep in mind, she had no money for a deposit and no plans and has 3 tiny yappy dogs and most places around here don't accept pets. So we found her a place that is run by our current "landlord". From the moment we have moved her up here she has been nothing but a pain in my ass. Nothing makes her happy, she is constantly whining about something. She doesn't like the house that we moved her to. Granted it's not the best of places to live, but it's by far unlivable. And what else does she expect on such a short notice anyway? She's been in Ellijay for 3 weeks now. She has done nothing but whine about her home and yet hasn't even begun to look for another place. We have given her newspapers, shown her online how to look up places around us etc....But she would rather my husband do it for her. And sorry NO....he and I have our own lives and she is a grown ass woman! Well her landlord had offered for her to look at another place that he was currently evicting some tennants from. All he needed to do was get the paper work legalizing the removal of their belongings and he would have moved them out ASAP (this was Monday) so he called my husband and told him that. Which on Monday when we picked her up to take her to our home to do laundry he relayed this message to her. At that point she began her 2 year old temper tantrum. Crying and whining etc.... I, like usual, bit my tounge and didn't say two words to her. Which isn't unusual since I really didn't care for the woman to start with. She asked for me to take her to the post office to get her package and then to take her home. I wasn't one to plead and beg for her to come to our house to do her laundry. I respected her wishes and took her home. But on the way back to her house she asked me to stop at a gas station, where she promptly bought some beer (a 30 pack) Tate stated to her that "he was sorry he moved her up here because she was so unhappy" (Mind you that is ALL he said to her) and we dropped her off. By the time we got home she had bashed us all over Facebook telling anyone who would listen that we said we wished we had never moved her up here, and that she was to much trouble for us and all sorts of other nonsense. Then she proceed to message my mother on facebook and call her all sorts of names (the attack wasn't warranted and I had read the posts, my mom never said a thing to her!) Then proceeded to call our cell for the next 10 hours straight stating things like I was a whore and that my husband was an asshole and that we were the whitest of white trash....these voicemails are all saved on our phone as well. She proceeded to insult and threaten her neighbors and bug the landlord and other things. Which has gotten the police called on her, and the landlord letting her know that he wants her out on her ass and that he is giving her the rent money back ASAP. Which I don't blame him one bit after the trouble that she caused him all day and us for that matter. But now that it's 3 days later she is calling our phone and "apologizing and crying" and wanting my husband to call her. But I'm at my end with this woman. I've had enough of her childish behavior and I'm not going to stand for it. I know and knew that Tate will forgive her, he's her son and the only real reliable family she has. I don't hold it against him when he wants to make amends with her. But I'm not really the forgiving type, so it's going to be a while before I forgive and forget. If I ever do. With me you only get one shot, and she used that up! So I guess the question is.....do I forgive and forget because she is my husbands mother? I mean yea he can forgive her all he wants. But I'm the only one that can drive, so he can't go see or help her unless I'm the one to take him out there. And I'll be damned if it's going to be anytime soon. What do you think?
Later Taters
Sabrae
p.s. this post really doesn't FULLY express how I feel or how much really happened that day...
Wednesday, November 3, 2010
When I found her.............
She has been a missing part of my life for almost 14 years. I haven't seen her, spoken to her, hugged her or anything. Everyday I think about her. Wonder what type of young woman she has grown up to be. Where she is, is she happy etc. So when I finally found her online, on facebook, it was a happy day. But also a day filled with emotion. Would she talk to me, would she want me part of her life? I got my answer loud and clear. No. She doesn't want anything to do with me. She blocked me and has refused to acknowledge my existance. And it saddens me to say the least.
And if you are confused, I'm talking about my youngest sister.
She and I both went through a rough trial in our lives. We didn't have the best of childhoods growing up. Being put in different foster homes, being bounced around etc. I'm 7 years older so went through it a lot worse than she did. But she got lucky. She found a woman that loved her and adopted her. I stepped aside and let her grow up, let her deal with her traumas and always offered any answers I could provide. We did talk a little via email when she was growing up. But then it all stopped, and I didn't push. I just let her grow. I've never stopped thinking about her. She is my little sister afterall. And I was like a mother to her. I took care of her, fed her, bathed her, etc. So yea in a way I felt like a mother to her. So to find her on facebook and to write her was hard. I was excited, sad, happy etc. It was like a whole new life and world was going to open up to me. Finally I'd have my little sister back in my life. I was excited. But my oh so loving husband sort of told me "not to get my hopes up" when I told him the whole story. He's been supportive about it all and has helped me to understand a few things.
Everyone handles trauma differently. I guess I was just so use to it all that I've hardened myself. Whereas (according to her adoptive mom) it took her years of counseling and such to come to terms. And to her "I'm a reminder of a sad time in her life"
Which is kind of like a slap in the face and a let down. I had my hope set on her and I connecting and having some symbolizing sister hood again. But alas that is not to be. So I guess I should give up and live my life and forget about connection with her. I wish her the best and I'm sad that she is the kind of person who would shut the only blood family she has left. But I wish her the best of luck in everything she persues.
Later Taters,
Sabrae
And if you are confused, I'm talking about my youngest sister.
She and I both went through a rough trial in our lives. We didn't have the best of childhoods growing up. Being put in different foster homes, being bounced around etc. I'm 7 years older so went through it a lot worse than she did. But she got lucky. She found a woman that loved her and adopted her. I stepped aside and let her grow up, let her deal with her traumas and always offered any answers I could provide. We did talk a little via email when she was growing up. But then it all stopped, and I didn't push. I just let her grow. I've never stopped thinking about her. She is my little sister afterall. And I was like a mother to her. I took care of her, fed her, bathed her, etc. So yea in a way I felt like a mother to her. So to find her on facebook and to write her was hard. I was excited, sad, happy etc. It was like a whole new life and world was going to open up to me. Finally I'd have my little sister back in my life. I was excited. But my oh so loving husband sort of told me "not to get my hopes up" when I told him the whole story. He's been supportive about it all and has helped me to understand a few things.
Everyone handles trauma differently. I guess I was just so use to it all that I've hardened myself. Whereas (according to her adoptive mom) it took her years of counseling and such to come to terms. And to her "I'm a reminder of a sad time in her life"
Which is kind of like a slap in the face and a let down. I had my hope set on her and I connecting and having some symbolizing sister hood again. But alas that is not to be. So I guess I should give up and live my life and forget about connection with her. I wish her the best and I'm sad that she is the kind of person who would shut the only blood family she has left. But I wish her the best of luck in everything she persues.
Later Taters,
Sabrae
Sunday, October 31, 2010
Halloween at the Waffle House
Well unfortunately for you I didn't get a chance to take pictures of the few that did come into Waffle House last night in their Halloween costumes. Bummer I know. Because a lot of people dressed up and came in, but we were "balls to the walls" busy last night.
Let me tell you about it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
So it's a typical Saturday night, like usual I get there a little before 10 and sort of "prep" myself before taking the floor. Of course 2nd shift doesn't have their work done, so my co-worker and I get it all caught up. The first two hours go by smoothly with customers litering in and out. Nothing major and nothing busy. Bout 12:30am when the bars finally clear out, we fill up. And I'm talking FILL UP. Our Waffle House can seat comfortably about 60 people (and that is a rough guestimate to say the least) But Jonnie and I are doing our best to keep up. She has one end of the store and I have the other. We're taking orders and filling the grill up. I'm keeping my sanity, taking orders talking with the customers etc....then all hell breaks lose in my corner of the store. Holy SHIT! I evaluate the situation as best I could and realize that "yea I have some army training and can handle myself pretty well when breaking up a fight......but these guys are pretty big and I'm probably going to get slapped around some" So I run to the grill and tell James (our old roomate and other grill operator) that he's the "biggest one in the store and to get his butt over to my corner NOW" he looks at me kinda dumbfounded like "WTF are you talking about" (you would have had to been there to really appreicate the look he gave me) He then turns and realizes what it was that I was talking about. I've never seen a big man move so quick! LOL My hubby is also a cook at Waffle House and yes he can handle his own I'm sure. But he's my height and these guys were like 6ft and taller. So I made him stay back! LOL James and I got the fight under control and kicked some of the aggressors out on their rear end. I mean hey, if they wanna fight in the parking lot go for it! LOL
But then it back to business like usual. And about that time I turn and realize that the store had some how filled up more than it was BEFORE the fight broke out. Needless to say, and to make a long story short, I got my ass handed to me big time last night! It was busy all the way up til about 5am and if I never see another dirty dish or customer I won't be sad! LOL So that was my halloween night in a nutshell (yes I know today is technically halloween, but the bars night for dress up was last night) how was yours?
Later Taters,
Sabrae
Let me tell you about it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
So it's a typical Saturday night, like usual I get there a little before 10 and sort of "prep" myself before taking the floor. Of course 2nd shift doesn't have their work done, so my co-worker and I get it all caught up. The first two hours go by smoothly with customers litering in and out. Nothing major and nothing busy. Bout 12:30am when the bars finally clear out, we fill up. And I'm talking FILL UP. Our Waffle House can seat comfortably about 60 people (and that is a rough guestimate to say the least) But Jonnie and I are doing our best to keep up. She has one end of the store and I have the other. We're taking orders and filling the grill up. I'm keeping my sanity, taking orders talking with the customers etc....then all hell breaks lose in my corner of the store. Holy SHIT! I evaluate the situation as best I could and realize that "yea I have some army training and can handle myself pretty well when breaking up a fight......but these guys are pretty big and I'm probably going to get slapped around some" So I run to the grill and tell James (our old roomate and other grill operator) that he's the "biggest one in the store and to get his butt over to my corner NOW" he looks at me kinda dumbfounded like "WTF are you talking about" (you would have had to been there to really appreicate the look he gave me) He then turns and realizes what it was that I was talking about. I've never seen a big man move so quick! LOL My hubby is also a cook at Waffle House and yes he can handle his own I'm sure. But he's my height and these guys were like 6ft and taller. So I made him stay back! LOL James and I got the fight under control and kicked some of the aggressors out on their rear end. I mean hey, if they wanna fight in the parking lot go for it! LOL
But then it back to business like usual. And about that time I turn and realize that the store had some how filled up more than it was BEFORE the fight broke out. Needless to say, and to make a long story short, I got my ass handed to me big time last night! It was busy all the way up til about 5am and if I never see another dirty dish or customer I won't be sad! LOL So that was my halloween night in a nutshell (yes I know today is technically halloween, but the bars night for dress up was last night) how was yours?
Later Taters,
Sabrae
Wednesday, October 27, 2010
It's that time again
It's that time of year again when things get crazy hectic at work. Halloween is right around the corner. Next up is Thanksgiving and then Christmas. And work gets crazy! We are all pulling doubles and such just to cover the floor becuase we at the Waffle House never close. UGH! I know when Tate and I decide it's time for kids I won't be working there! I will want to be spending that time with my family! But for now the money is good so I can't complain to much. :)
Life around here is the usual. Eat, sleep, shower, work and repeat. It's a daunting task for sure. But we gotta do it.
Later Taters,
Sabrae
Life around here is the usual. Eat, sleep, shower, work and repeat. It's a daunting task for sure. But we gotta do it.
Later Taters,
Sabrae
Saturday, October 16, 2010
What kind of mother can you be?
So in our local newspaper there is an article about a woman driving off and leaving her 2 year old at daycare. Of course this isn't usually a big issue. People drop their kids off at daycare all the time right? Well what is so shocking about this story is the mother was late to the drop off for daycare. When the aid went in to check to be sure that it was still ok for the mother to leave her child there, the mother drove off. Thus leaving her 2 year old child out on the stoop. The child was found later roaming the street. What kind of mother just drives off and leaves a 2 year old kid stranded outside like that? Ugh this story makes me want to punch that woman in the face!
Later Taters,
Sabrae
Later Taters,
Sabrae
Friday, October 8, 2010
A week has passed
Well a week has passed now. And thankfully I'm feeling much much better! So just wanted to drop a quick note to everyone to let you know that I didn't die due to my illness. It finally went away! Of course I better go knock on wood now, because it will come roaring back with a vengence if I do not! LOL
Later Taters,
Sabrae
Later Taters,
Sabrae
Wednesday, October 6, 2010
Grrrrness!
Well one day I felt like getting better, the next day not so much. And NOOOOOOOO for the record I am NOT pregnant! Seems like that is what everyone is thinking. But I've been preggers before and I know those symptoms quite well thanks very much! LOL I'm just not sure if it's the weather changing and the allergies are acting up or if it's the flu, or a slight case of pneumonia. If it doesn't clear up by this weekend or my next day off which is Sunday I'm def going to the doctor. Cuz let's just say grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr is the only way I can describe it. And Missy if you are reading this, I'm not a good patient either. But I need the work so calling out and resting isn't an option for me at the moment. So I'm toughing it out and doing what I have to and working. But I've pretty much spent the past 3 days doing much of nothing but sleeping! Attempted to go to a good friends surprise birthday party, lasted about an hour and a half and had to leave. Just started feeling blah again. So hopefully it goes away soon and I can get back to life! Cuz this just sucks!
Later Taters,
Sabrae
Later Taters,
Sabrae
Monday, October 4, 2010
Getting better day by day
Well it only took 4 days. But I'm starting to feel much better. And I didn't get the rest and relaxation needed the whole time I was sick. I went to work everyday and toughed it out. Man it was a killer I'll tell ya! I'm still dealing with the chest congestion. But all in all I'm better. I've got my energy back. So thanks for all the well wishes!
Currently I'm enjoying my 3 days off!
Later Taters,
Sabrae
Currently I'm enjoying my 3 days off!
Later Taters,
Sabrae
Sunday, October 3, 2010
Saturday, October 2, 2010
Thanks!
Thanks so much for those of you that read my last blog post and made such positive comments! It really made my day to read them! Sometimes I'm just in need of a lift me up! :) And you all really lifted me up! Espically your comment Ron! LOL
In other news................
I'm currently suffering from some sort of awful sickness that won't go away! It's been 3 days now and everyday I tend to wake up feeling worse than I did the day before! It started on Wednesday. I woke up with an awful sinus congestion and head cold. Then Thursday started in with the hurting while breathing and chest congestion. Awful cough as well. Also felt like I ran a marathon after sweeping and mopping the floors at work.
I haven't had any new symptoms as of yet today.....But then again I haven't been to bed yet either. LOL So we will see what the day is going to have in store for me when I wake up to get ready for work! Hopefully I'm at the end of this awful sickness and just get better. After tonight I have 3 days off and really don't want to spend them sick in bed!
Well Later Taters,
Sabrae
In other news................
I'm currently suffering from some sort of awful sickness that won't go away! It's been 3 days now and everyday I tend to wake up feeling worse than I did the day before! It started on Wednesday. I woke up with an awful sinus congestion and head cold. Then Thursday started in with the hurting while breathing and chest congestion. Awful cough as well. Also felt like I ran a marathon after sweeping and mopping the floors at work.
I haven't had any new symptoms as of yet today.....But then again I haven't been to bed yet either. LOL So we will see what the day is going to have in store for me when I wake up to get ready for work! Hopefully I'm at the end of this awful sickness and just get better. After tonight I have 3 days off and really don't want to spend them sick in bed!
Well Later Taters,
Sabrae
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